My pastor said something at church on Sunday that has stuck with me. He said that a lot of people expect marriage to be 50/50 and they get upset when things in marriage are not fair. Marriage is indeed not fair.
I loved what he said next...marriage should be 100%{0}. You give 100% of yourself to your marriage/spouse and expect 0% in return.
I know some may read that and immediately start to argue, but think about it. If both husband and wife are giving 100% to each other and expecting 0% in return, would that not make for an amazing marriage? How beautiful that would be!
Now, I know that we can only change ourselves. We can do the work of the 100%{0} rule but can not make our spouse do the same. I realize that it would not be fair if only one spouse followed this rule…but we already established that marriage is not fair to begin with. You can only do what you can do.
I am making a commitment to get as close to 100%{0} as I can. There will be (many) days when I am spent and do not have much left to give. There will be (many) days when I fail miserably, but my marriage is worth the effort.
What do you think?
What do you think?
Wise words from your pastor. 100%{0} makes complete sense to me! Now to actually *live* it...
ReplyDeleteWe heard this when we went to marriage counseling. It's hard to live this way, but when you both do it just works.
ReplyDeleteGreat post!
ReplyDeletei'm with you.
ReplyDeleteCecilia (from HP)
Great post & thanks for sharing!
ReplyDeleteWhat a beautiful way to think about it. Man, if I just remembered to treat my husband better than I treat my best friend... that would work beautifully because he IS my best friend, right?
ReplyDeleteYour pastor is smart - thanks for posting this!